How to Herd Cats - How to Lead Groups in Our Personal Lives More Effectively

Leading a group of people can often be a tiresome,ideas rarely come from one individual - solicit opinions
thankless job and yet, many find the experience to befrom group members, people from similar groups and
completely rewarding. Satisfaction is directly related tofrom the Web. Think outside the box but also learn
how well-functioning the group is. How to get a groupfrom the backs of others. Putting together a good
of people to work together is both an art and aschedule of activities will help make the group excited
science. Volumes have been filled on numerousand engaged.
theories on how to make group more effective butKeep everyone on the same page - groups can
mostly from a business context.quickly dissolve from lack of activity and
Outside of work life, groups form an important part ofcommunication. When it comes to people's increasingly
most everyone's life. People are a part of at leastbusy schedules, their personal lives often take a back
several groups and they include a wide diversity ofseat to that urgent thing that regularly pop up. Direct
interests including: recreational sports teams, hobbyand indirect communication is key to maintaining
groups, faith-based prayer groups, volunteering andcohesion in the group, particularly as everybody has
charity organizations, playgroups. Groups form as longtheir own time and. Regular get-togethers and
as there is a common interest. There's often no bossmeetings can help strengthen emotional bonds within
to force people to participate in a group and so thatthe group. Setting up a group web page and group
leaves the leader to use more "carrot" than "stick"email is a great way to help provide indirect cohesion
methods. We'll outline some of the best advice on howacross time and space. For instance, using a web
to get groups in your own personal life to functionsolution for groups enable a people to check the group
better.calendar at any time and to volunteer on the signup
Understand the motivations - don't assume you knowsheet at any hour. Setting up a central website and
what people want. You really have to understand whygroup email help provide needed communication
they are participating and what they hope to get outinfrastructure for the group for direct and indirect
of it. If you have good alignment amongst thecommunication.
members, then members will be motivated toDelegate, delegate, delegate. Nothing makes members
participate. For example, you may have some peoplefeel more involved in the group than when they take
on a sports team who want to win the leagueownership. When leaders delegate they not only
championship and others who just want to learn. Thereduce their workload, but also get much needed
best thing to do is to spend time with each member,"buy-in" from people who are involved in the process.
ask open-ended questions and LISTEN.When there are problems, don't think you have to
Craft a good set of goals - once you understand whatsolve them yourself. Sometimes the critics are the
people want to get out of their experience in thebest people to address the problems they are bringing
group, it's best to set up the goals that the group canup. Where possible, get volunteers and let them take
largely agree on. Once the goals are established youresponsibility for important things that make a
can set up a great set of activities to support thedifference.
goals. For example, a playgroup may have manyLead by example. Again, there are tomes written on
different possible goals - perhaps the playgroup wantsleadership and no one article can summarize what it
the kids to just focus on socializing. Others may wanttakes to be a leader. Pick the leadership style that
to have more of a religious-based instruction. Othersworks best for the group. Every group is different and
may want to focus on learning a 2nd language. Youhas different leadership requirements. Beware of being
may be surprised on how difficult this can be. Workthe micromanager who must control everything. Be
together with your fellow members and agree on awary also be being so slack as to be irresponsible or
good set of clear goals.lazy. Almost universally, good leaders lead by example,
Plan some great activities - Once the goals have beensolicit ideas from everybody, listen carefully before
agreed upon, brainstorm with the group to find a greatacting, invest some time thinking a few steps ahead,
set of activities to accomplish your goals. The bestand most importantly, trust their members.