Are You Failing Your Child?

hat Noah is a month into kindergarten I am happy toMental preparation for school is more than simply
report that he loves it and is thriving. Every morning heknowing letters, numbers, shapes and colors. It is also
pops out of bed eager and ready to go to school. Onabout being able to listen, observe, and remember. In
the weekends he actually misses school although headdition to learning reading, writing and arithmetic,
does enjoy the opportunity to sleep in. When I drop himchildren are learning how to negotiate and survive a
off in the morning he quickly switches into schoolbureaucracy. Even kindergarten students will be
mode. When I pick him up at the end of the school dayexpected to remember their teacher's name, their
he is excited to share all his news of the day includingroom number and location, their schedule, and various
what he learned, what happened in class and on theother administrative miscellanea (for example, a lunch
playground, and what he did with his friends. He lovescode or bus number). The more a child can handle
all his teachers and has made many new friends.these details for herself the more confident she will be
As I spend time in my son's school and observe hisand the more comfortable with her school day. If she
peers I am sad to see a large group of youngstersis familiar with the daily and weekly school schedule it
who are not enjoying their school experience at all.simply increases her comfort level. It may seem
While tears and panic are to be expected the firstoverwhelming but most kindergarten students quickly
week of school it is sad to see the tears continuemaster the essentials they need to negotiate the day.
after children have had weeks to adjust to a newThe more parents work to help and support children to
way of life. Some children get over their tears as themaster these skills the more the child will succeed.
day progresses but others continue to cry throughPhysical preparation for school is essential. Children
lunch and even throughout the day. My heart goes outwho do not have enough sleep cannot learn
to these little ones who were not emotionally preparedeffectively and also have difficulty negotiating in the
for school.social atmosphere of school as well as have discipline
It is also troublesome to see how many children areproblems. Young, growing children need enough sleep
not mentally prepared for school. There are many skillsto wake up rested and bright-eyed and ready to face
children should master before starting kindergarten thatthe day. Children must also have proper nutrition to
fall into these basic areas: cognitive skills, listening andlearn. They need enough of the right kind of food (a
sequencing, language skills, fine motor skills, socialbalanced diet) to keep their bodies healthy and
emotional skills, and gross motor skills. See my articlegrowing. While fashion should not be a major factor in
about kindergarten readiness at for more information.kindergarten, children should wear clothing suitable to
Finally, the worst cases are the children who are notthe outdoor weather as well as the classroom
physically prepared for school. These children have notactivities they will engage in during the day.
had enough sleep, not had enough food, and are notKindergarten students are often involved in physical
wearing suitable clothing. These children also areactivities and should wear clothing suitable for running,
unable to take care of themselves in the mostdancing, and jumping as well as sitting on the floor or at
fundamental ways.a desk. Of course, children should also be clean and
Parents must prepare their children for schoolneat to help build their confidence and lessen
emotionally, mentally, and physically or they are settingdistractions.
up their children for failure. Children who have not beenIf you do not do your best to prepare your child
prepared for the separation from home and family andemotionally, mentally and physically for school then you
children who have not been prepared for the schoolare failing your child and worse you are setting your
day structure will have difficulty adjusting emotionally tochild up for failure. While early success does not
school and a negative experience can have long termguarantee continued school success, early failure can
effects on the child's academic success. Work to buildhaunt a child's academic record or worse set up a
your child's confidence and self esteem so he is betterpattern of expectation and behavior that child will be
equipped to venture out into the world on his own.doomed to repeat throughout his school life.
Most children successfully transition into kindergartenDo not fail your child. Take full advantage of your
so it can be done and you should make it your goal forchild's preschool years to prepare him for school and
your child to start school with no tears.for life. Kindergarten will be here sooner than you think.